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5 Ways To Get Back In The Dating Scene After Divorce


By: Jack Leavitt


If you have been married for several years and the marriage ends, you may think that dating will be easy; after all, you dated tons of people many years ago. However, if you have been out of the dating scene for many years, you are in for a big surprise because dating has evolved and changed over the years. There are ways to get you back in the dating world successfully.

1. First off, if you just recently divorced after being married for some time, be careful not to jump right into another relationship. This is called a "rebound relationship" and they rarely ever work out. Therefore, give yourself some time to heal, perhaps take a "me vacation" and try to understand what went wrong in your marriage, what part did you play? This will help you realize where you need to change.

2. When a marriage ends so does the dream of "growing old together." You may feel like a complete failure and you may even feel like you have added to the divorce rate statistics. Get to know what it is that you want in a marriage or in a partner and what it is that you bring to the table. Let go of the feelings of failure because until you do, you can never move on with someone else.

3. When you do find someone you are interested in, do not continually talk about your ex, this is annoying to the new dating prospect and it sends a message that you are either not over your ex or you will compare your date to your ex should the relationship flourish.

4. Begin dating slowly, but remember, it is just a date, a way to enjoy someone's company and to brush up on your dating skills. Just because you have a date with someone, does not mean they are "the one." Use initial dating as just a way to have fun and get your feet wet, so-to-speak. Keep dating light and do not act like you are trying to replace your ex on the first date because you will scare off your date in a hurry.

5. If you have not dated since the rise of the Internet, you are in for some big surprises. Many people today meet online before they meet in person; it is a way to weed through those that you are not interested. Of course, you will want to bring the online date into the real world as soon as possible.

Final Thoughts

Dating after divorce can be very scary and difficult, by understanding your fears and concerns, you will learn to make connections with people. Rather than looking at your date as a potential husband or wife, simply enjoy the experience and enjoy the other person's company. This takes the pressure off you and the other person.

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