We all seem to have that one person in our past that we just can't get over. For some of us it's the first boy we kissed in middle school. For others it's much more serious than that. If the man you can't get past is your ex boyfriend and you feel stuck in that desire for him, you're not alone. Many women find themselves pining away for a man they haven't been with for years. He's the one who stole your heart and still has it. Even if you've tried to move on by dating other men, your heart still feels pulled in one direction and one direction only and that's towards your ex. If you don't believe that it's possible for you to love another man, you need to seriously consider getting your ex back. It may feel and seem impossible once a few years have passed, but it's not. You can reconnect with your ex boyfriend again and steal his heart back.
Obviously if you want to reconnect with your ex boyfriend after a few years you have to ensure he's available. That means you need to do a little detective work. If you have mutual friends, quiz them in a subtle way. Bring his name up in the course of conversation and just ask how he is. Most people will answer by talking about his relationship status as well as his employment status. It's important for you to respect his situation if he is already in a serious and committed relationship.
If you discover that he's just as single as you are, you need to plot your first move. A very good approach to take is to run into him in a way that seems purely by accident. Men are creatures of habit so it's highly likely that the coffee shop he frequented when you two were together is the very same one he goes to now. Plan a time to run into him when you look and feel your best. You want this to truly be a "wow" moment that will make him catch his breath. This is your first and only chance to really make him see what he lost.
Once you've taken that step and re-established contact, you can then work on talking with him again. With all the social networking sites available it's almost a gift to someone in your situation. Search for his profile on any of the sites and request to be his friend. This gives you access to him and ensures that you can contact him in a non-threatening way that won't seem extra obvious.
You already know what he loves in a woman, so be sure to bring those characteristics to the forefront. Don't be too quick to talk about the past with him. Instead focus on the present and the future. He'll start to remember why he was drawn to you initially and before you know it, the sparks will be flying between you two again.